![]() ![]() We have had women Presidential candidates, Vice Presidential candidates, leaders, CEO’s, leading the way for #MeToo movements or #LeanIn movements to rock the world. She will always be remembered as someone who fought for what she believed in, paving the way for women to rise up everywhere. “I would like to be remembered as someone who used whatever talent she had to do her work to the very best of her ability.” Ruth Bader Ginsburg Also, while unlike RBG I can cook, my husband does most of the cooking for us like Martin did for their family. ![]() Our marriage is not 50/50, it’s 100/100, and I fully believe that Martin and RBG were inspiring partners. When one of us is focusing on something, like when my husband travels for work or when I wanted to finish my Master’s degree, we help each other. RBG once said, “In the course of a marriage, one accommodates the other” and that is how my husband and I navigate our marriage. He legitimately got mad at her for settling for a job she found versus the career that she really wanted. He didn’t put her in a box or force her to be in his shadow. ![]() A true partner that wanted her to succeed on her own, respected her wishes and her goals for herself. If you know me, you know there’s no way I could be in the shadow of someone else. I wasn’t sure if I was going to be someone that could be “second” to anyone else. I was scared to be married when I was younger, I really was. Martin Ginsburg did a lot to show the world how to treat their wives. One of the biggest reasons she was able to fight was because she had a partner beside her to help her, push her, and support her. I had a life partner who thought my work was as important as his, and I think that made all the difference for me.” Ruth Bader Ginsburg “If you have a caring life partner, you help the other person when that person needs it. If that is not the most powerful thing in shaping our world, by shaping the minds of our next generation, I don’t know what is. Our children are soaking all of our values and all of our opinions in order to form their own. He cares more about his daughter than stuff.” When she says something like that I know they are always watching and listening to every thing that we say, no matter how big and small. My oldest daughter will sometimes say something like, “I don’t like tomatoes, just like you Mommy!” or, while watching the new Mulan movie, “Of course that Dad doesn’t care about a silly sword. I am currently raising my own gutsy women, and know how eye opening it is for my kids to understanding something I am trying to teach them, be it about gender equality, racial equality, or simply that it’s ok that we like different things and aren’t the same as each other. How awesome it must have felt for her as a mother to show her daughter how to fight for what is right, rather than giving in to what is easy. She and her husband used a tax law case with a male defendant to topple gender inequality. Her daughter was right there with her, watching her, learning from her, as she fought her first case. She wanted to teach her daughter to stand up for herself and for what is right, by arguing with her, just as my parents did for me. In the movie, she fights with her daughter as I fought with my mom so many times. I started writing this piece when On The Basis of Sex, a movie based on her life, came out and never finished it. She made it possible for me to be able to tell my daughters they can be anything they want to be, and truly mean it. Ruth Bader Ginsburg shouldered that burden for us, and the burden of our whole gender. Did my daughter eat enough vegetables today? Should I mention I have kids during this job interview? We shoulder the burden of everything. We always knew we battled everything – work, raising kids, caring for the home, making our spouse happy, making our families happy. ![]() If 2020 has taught us anything, it is the resilience of mothers. It shouldn’t be that women are the exception.” Ruth Bader GinsburgĪs mothers, we are asked to take on so much. “Women belong in all places where decisions are being made. Throughout all of this, all of these battles, she didn’t stop fighting. In her 27 years on the court, she fought and beat cancer twice, getting it a third time in 2018 in her lungs. In 1993 she became the second woman appointed to the Supreme Court. She also cared for her husband who had testicular cancer, taking his Harvard Law School classes in addition to her own. As a student of Harvard Law School, graduating from Columbia Law, she raised a daughter, aced her classes, earned her spot on the Harvard Law Review and Columbia Law Review. She was a renegade for women and moms everywhere. She fought valiantly throughout her life for things we take for granted now. Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, born in 1933, died September 18, 2020. ![]()
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